Hello, kindly indulge me as I recap on the recent Ashley Madison (AM) website hack shenanigans. Can I hear you yawning? Sorry to bore you but trust me there is method in my madness and I'm really going somewhere with this one. 'Should in case' you were sleeping and had not heard. The AshleyMadison website was set up to hook up married people that want to have affairs! The Website's logo is 'Life is short. Have an affair'.
Everything was going smoothly for this website with millions of fee paying subscribers world wide until a group of hackers aka The Impact Team issued an ultimatum that the website should be shutdown as the concept of AM was wrong, causing hurt, breaking up famlies blah blah blah.
They threatened to expose the names of 52 million customer profiles. Alarm come Blow! There was panic around the world; wife suspecting husband and husband suspecting wife. Both having nightly sweats and running stomachs in the run up to the release of 'The List'.
There was count down and founder of website called hackers bluff and refused to shut down the website. So D-day arrived 'ghen-ghen' and the hackers published the 1st list of names of subscribers, credit card details and their sexual preferences! Awkward to say the least.
The interesting thing was website where hacked details of members was released, crashed within hours of publish as people around the world scrambled to get on line to check whose details were on it. The hack has drawn the attention of millions and my oh my there were a few surprises. People from all walks of life were on it, even 'holier than thou' media personnel, prompting apologies to spouse, family members, the public and blaming & shaming of that poor chap 'the devil' for their actions.
One popular US TV personality checked himself in rehab for sex addiction! There were well estsblished companies, Government departments and military employees emails on the list as some folk thought they were playing smart by subscribing using their work email!
Anyway the fall out was big and it was common knowledge that the sole winners of this fiasco however were the divorce solicitors. Over the past weeks every couple of days one big name or the other is exposed by the hack accompanied with their preferences aka fantasies!!!
There have been debates as to whether those whose names have been exposed deserved what they got. And there have been at least two cases of suicide linked to the leak. Yes that's how serious it is, human beings have taken their own life due to the shame of having their indiscretions exposed!
Now this is how this one goes down, each time I discuss this AM scandal among 'our people' there doesn't seem to be much interest. It really got me wondering. There's even an illustration of a world map published that highlights the countries with the highest number of registered members, I am proud to say our home land was literally non represented.
Well done Nigeria, so proud of you.
And here endeth the lesson Xxx
Yeah right...Believe that and you'll believe anything, wake up and smell the coffee please.
The only way I can demonstrate what's really going on is to share the hypothetical situation of Ngozi a Lagos based mother of four that has just found Jide her hubby's name on the Ashley Madsion hacked list! She is so hurt, they've been married for 10 years and she lives a very cushy lifestyle. She's even more upset to discover that on Jide's AM profile he lists his fetish's as being flogged by koboko (horsewhip), that he likes to wear 'Pampers', wearing ladies louboutin shoes and being fed baby milk from a baby bottle!! Ngozi wants to believe it must be another Jide and not her hubby, but it's there in black and white, Jide Musa, with his office email and his credit card details!! Ngozi spends a whole day crying.
Jide is currently in Abuja on business. What is she going to do? She calls her besto Funke and tells her what is up. Funke just looks on and says "eh hen what's the big deal?" After all sebi Ngozi and children had just returned from holiday in Dubai and US all expenses paid by Jide? What more did she want? Funke advices Ngozi to 'behave herself' and to stop the drama! That many girls would give their right arms to be in her shoes, so she better shine her eyes well and wipe her tears.
Ngozi wipes her tears and waits for her mum who is also visiting that same afternoon, when mum arrives she bursts into tears again. Mum is worried 'Ngo baby what's wrong, hope the kids are okay" 'yes mama they are fine'. She then narrates the story to mama. Mama looks confused and asks so what is the problem?? It's not as if Jide is leaving her to marry another wife, he's not lost his job, he's still paying the children school fees? Yes his name is on a list looking for girlfriend and so what, what's the big deal? Mama's parting shot as she leaves the house is that Ngo "should not let the devil ruin her home". She issues a further warning that Ngozi must not mention what she has seen to Jide or confront him on the matter.
When Jide returns from Abuja, Ngozi has bathed the kids and put them to bed. She has made his favourite meal of starch, egusi soup with Monika fish. She sits there watching him as he eats, she's looking ever so sad and he asks her why is she not eating, Ngozi explains that she is upset over something. He asks her to wait till he has finished eating so he can hear her out. She sits there with tears in her eyes and gives a sigh of relief when he sucks the flesh off the last fish bone.
After she has given him a bowl water to wash his hands with napkin, he belches and asks "Ngo bae what's the problem?" she replies 'Jide you know that Ashey Madison website....' Before she can 'land' he flares up all aggressive ' Ashley Madison wetin? What happened to it? What have you been doing? Abi your name is on the list? What are you doing looking at the list? What you are looking for hopefully you will find or are you mad? You must be crazy. What's my business with them, what could you possibly want to discuss with me about it? I will call your mother now and send you packing, let me find your name on that list?
I will show you pepper, and you still want me to buy that 'Range' for you abi" (height of Naija swagger is when you are so bucked up you don't need to pronounce make of a car in full!)
By now Ngozi eyes have cleared and she's thinking on her feet. "Ah no Jide, God forbid I have not looked at the AM hacked list Ooo, it's my friend that called me and said her hubby's name was on there, she was rather upset and her mood rubbed off on me honey". Jide let's out a loud hiss and says 'what a stupid woman, you better not copy her o, see the problem she has caused for herself now?' Ngozi replies 'yes boo, so true don't mind her'
It's a man's world, may be you guys can help me understand why 'our' society is so accepting?
I've just had the most interesting conversation with my youngest daughter, T-dawg, and this is her take: she says the reason why Naija's have not been implicated and are under-represented in the Ashley Madsion hack is because most Naija folks are IT illiterate and require the assistance of their kids to sign up on websites and obviously there is no way they can ask for help if they planned to engage in such clandestine activities.
So summary is possibly the soul is willing but the IT skills weak!
On that note let's thank God it's Friday and have a great weekend.
If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try ~ Unknown
17 comments:
So right T dawg!!, you got that right!
Some Nigerian parents are so so computer illiterate it is unreal.
Possibly it is for the best!!!
Indeed, it is a computer literate world ... Be there or be square!
Morin my peeps.
Yes TDawg...you d man/woman.
The other reason, I dare say is Nigerian men are cheap skates. They will not be paying millions of Dollars for an affair when girls still accept Naira in Lagos!
Another interesting subject.
AM was set up to hook up married people who want to have an affair, ........ Do you have an idea how much the subscription fee is? I guess in dollars. Why don't they go to the streets of Nigeria, they are buy one get ten free, and it won't cost a cent. When did the Impact Team become such a caring body, to issue an ultimatum to shut down as the concept was wrong? BS, I guess there is more to it than what we know. The Impact Team, I guess, are not benefiting from this venture and have decided to hold AM to ransome. What do these bodies, especially in America know about morals. They would not recognise "morals" if is is thrown in their faces. There are a lot of nonsense going on in that country and they have failed to recognise and deal with them.
On a serious note, I am sorry but majority of Nigerian men are insensitive, selfish, selfcentered and foolish when it comes to relationship. They feel they have the God given right to ill treat their spouse and the culture and their partners allow them to get away with it. It seems normal for a Nigerian man to be blatantly unfaithful to their partners, women have accepted this behaviour and it is a weapon used by men to get away with a lot of nonsense.
It seems that As long as a man takes care of his responsibilities, it is acceptable to be unfaithful. It is the man's duty to take care of his responsibilities not mine. Mothers and fathers in law, family and friends feel that once a man makes a woman financially comfortable, he can get away with anything. Isn't this krazy? Just can't believe that in this day and age that people that are very well educated and not so well educated can even thinks for a second that this is right and acceptable. Where is our sense of reasoning, where is our sense, are we still mentally capable of reasoning and making right decisions. I hope to GoD that we still do.
I feel sorry for Nog and her mother, I am sorry, but no man will get away with that nonsense with me. I am poor and proud. I do not have control over another persons morals or behaviour but I have total control over what I do and how I reason. There are some things that are just not acceptable in my books, rich or poor.
Some behaviours are not just morally acceptable and this is one of them. The earlier we start standing up for ourselves and don't allow men to walk all over us just because they have money, the better life will become for women and we can then begin to let these men know that they are dogs and senseless and that we won't stand for such nonsense anymore. Enough is enough.
It is time for women to be empowered, independent financially and otherwise and stop relying on men who have nothing but money, which is only a means to an end. What nonsense.
Women just want to be respected, adored by their partners in a relationship and the same apply to men. Or is it too much to ask.
I have known, met, seen some Nigerian men who are respectful, sensitive and adore their partners. There are still a few of them out there. I love and respect a gentleman.
It is time that our men start to recognise that any man who Ill treats a woman is not a man.
Anonymous @ 10.32
Your comment is succinct and I couldn't agree more.
But to play devils advocate I have to say there can be blurred lines between Morality and Poverty.
I can see my Essex friend shaking her head "i say nae"
The thought of oga in his pampers and high heel LB shoes. Risi your imagination is something else. How can any woman accept such crap, now come cook for this same man, thunder fire may the fish bone suffocate him. A very sorry but real state of affairs.
@ anon 11 September 10.32
Your comments are too long! Keep 'em short and sweet.
You get what you accept.
If a man who is clad in Louboutins, baby's nappies and drinks from an adult-sized feeding bottle after removing his XXXL dummy from his choppers, brings in a large amount of kudi monthly and pays for expensive schools and holidays whilst juggling AM dates throughout the week does it for you, then why not?
If you find this distasteful, then walk!!!
Either way, your choice.
It's on the face of it, easy to criticise Ngozi's relatives and whilst I accept she faces tough choices, the answer, girls, is to become financially independent. That removes a big part of the need to be reliant on some men and whatever their foibles are. If he knows he can't get away with it, it's easier not to 'go there'.
Look within yourself and don't ask other's opinions. They don't have to live with 'random unku' and his titillatious habits.
Sorry anonymous @04:56 Sept 12. Tried very hard to distill my comments.
@albanese- shaking my head, nay, nay and thrice nay!!!!
12 September @ 4.56. Your comments are noted, thanks a lot. With respect, you are not compelled to reads comments if you feel they are too long. You can actually pass on them, please don't knock our efforts and time especially when we are on this free platform and trying to be positive, practical, constructive on subjects that matter, that we can all identifty with in our day to day lives.
Thanks again for your observation.
Then get your own bog going love. No need to read your blog on on someone's blog.
Not needed.
Your comments are too long. Move along.
Blog readers,
Please can we continue to show courtesy, respect others comments on posts and avoid getting too personal.
We should have more 'serious' issues to debate ie. Jide's pampers & louboutin fetish!
Let's keep it fun.
Ola
Hear! Hear!
Peace and love brethren��❤️����❤️��
Albanese; I am surprised you said Anonymous 10:32's comment was succinct ; nigerian's v started with using wrong adjectives to describe o; that comment was nothing close to short and concise!
On the koko of the matter; naija women that would tolerate the likes of Jide are insecure; afraid/bothered of what the society would say about their divorced status ; not self sufficient or just plain money/material driven; too bothered about living in Banana island with cheating Jide, that treats them like cramp or driving the latest 'Range' to belong and show off. In a lot of these cases; the women deserve the 'Jide Musas' they end up with.
T dwag; naija men don't have to go through the stress of going online to fulfill their fetish fantasies; too many girls willing to sort them out on the streets of Lagos.
@Belle of the ball
what is nigerian's v?
A number of things;
Most 9ja men aged up to 45 are quite computer-literate.
9ja is blessed with absolutely beautiful women, and the home based 9jas (if any) on the Ashley Madison site would be those who just want to 'chop whity'!
I am confuse o!
So some people will register with agency for play, play!
Risi I can't get the picture of a man with feeder in his mouth, wearing nappy and gal shoe!
What nonsense! Abasha!!
If they come to old peoples home they will run from nappy for play-play!
Who rules the world..........
Jeremy Corbyn
Anonymous @ 14.00 18/9/15
Are you for real! Do you really buy into Jeremy Corbyn' s idea of a "secret elite" who rule the world.
Newsflash!!!!
The "ELITE" may rule the world but secrecy is a leveller. Some people just have money to go on AM while the others can be found in the local red light district.
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