GUEST BLOG BY WILLIAM IFEANYI MOORE: ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER: A 21ST CENTURY KILLER.

                                   

Hi guys, let me introduce you to my 'Brother From Another Mother', William Ifeanyi Moore. That's him in the pic above with me besides him!

Hmmm now where do I start? Well one day I stumbled across an interesting article written by him in Bella Naija, see here.

And the rest is history, blah di blah!

So now you lucky guys are stuck with a short, sharp Guest Blog by William, here today!

In the pic above I think he's at a museum or somewhere. He has very quirky pastimes that do not particularly interest me, he's also rather deep and philosophical and most times I do not really understand half of what he talks about! One thing I can say about him though 'HE WRITES'.

And on that note guys I hand the baton to William (Cubixthoughts):

Thanks to the digital revolution and the internet it came with, our attention span has never been shorter than before. I for one know how much more I used to read before the smartphone era. Those days, a book a week was nothing to a boss (nerd). These days, a book a month is a triumph to be celebrated. Probably has more to do with having a busy schedule, but in my free time, I happen to find myself fiddling with my phone instead of settling to do something a bit more valuable to my life.

Unfortunately, this attention deficit disorder has also found its way into our relationships, and by the gods is it killing us. Unlike the days when we used to have a finite source of attention, these days, with the Instagram and Instachat, and Facebook and Twitter, and everything else I cannot be bothered to mention, we find ourselves constantly engaged in one toasting-like activity. In fact, for some people this has become an addiction. You go on these social sites and you see girls with boyfriends, and even fiancés…I’m sure there are guys in the same boat too, but understandably, my path can’t really cross with theirs. Most of these girls will entertain a conversation, even flirt with you, only to casually drop that they are in a relationship later on and expect business to carry on as usual.

Truth be told, some of these people might not really be looking for anything per say, their other half is probably just busy and cannot give them the attention they need so they turn to the internet to supplement this. Some are maybe in boring relationships, and just need to feel a pulse in their veins, and of course some just want to chop chop outside on the low. The question is, how right is this behavior? I think most people know their other half will feel some type of way about their social media escapades, and will probably feel the same way if they were in their partner’s shoes, but yet, this activity persists.

I will be the first to admit that attention from strangers holds some exciting value we do not necessarily get from our partners. Probably because we expect our partners to be nice to us and give us attention. In fact we see this as part of their duty to us. But for a stranger with no obligation, it is somewhat more flattering…oh humans, what a hopeless specie.

The danger with this behavior is that it is only a matter of time till you are fighting with your other half and one sweet talker slips in, and before you know it, what started as a ‘hey’ for attention has turned into a ‘so I will pick you up at 8’. In my every so humble opinion, learning to be comfortable in alone times and not constantly craving attention should be the first step towards getting ready to enter any sort of relationship. It is impossible to find someone that will be on hand to entertain you every minute of the day, especially when they have a demanding job, not to mention they need to spend time with their friends too.

So what do you guys think about people in relationships putting themselves in positions that attract attention like dating sites, or generally entertaining attention on social media platforms?

Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship ~ Oscar Wilde 

About William Moore (Cubixthoughts)

William Ifeanyi Moore is an MPharm graduate from the University of Portsmouth, UK. His true passion is in novels and poetry but he cheats on them with movies, plays, and music. He believes sacrifice and compromise is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. He is an editor for Revilo Publishers
Blog: www.willifmoore.com Twitter: @willifmoore Instagram: willifmoore